ProfilePicIf Only phrase
1. Even if for no other reason than
2. An expression used to express a wish, especially regretfully

The phrase “If Only” has been referred to as “The saddest words in the English Language” by multiple authors and speakers.

My friends and family referred to me “The If Only Girl” when I was in my twenties. I was known for wringing my hands in disbelief when things didn’t go my way. I spent hours mulling over situations wishing with all my heart that I could somehow change my circumstances just by worrying about them.

IF ONLY my car didn’t need to be repaired again.
IF ONLY I would have looked both ways before crossing that intersection.
IF ONLY I could lose this last ten pounds.
IF ONLY I would have spent more time preparing for that exam.
IF ONLY that cute boy in statistics would ask me to dinner.

Everything seemed out of my control. I believed that everyone in the world had power but me. This pattern didn’t end when I turned thirty, it continued for much of my life.

In my early forties I was diagnosed with breast cancer and I realized that it was time to stop looking outside myself for validation. I recognized that the only person stopping me from living the life of my dreams was myself. Slowly I learned how to take back my power. I discovered how to take full responsibility for the choices I make every day and to start living life on my own terms.

I discovered that the elusive term “spiritual enlightenment” isn’t just for yogis on mountaintops. It’s for all of us. It’s about coming back to ourselves. It’s about learning that we are not alone, that we are all connected.

This blog began as part of a forty-day process to prepare myself for my fiftieth birthday. In addition to daily yoga and meditation, I challenged myself to write a blog post every day. As I wrote I found my voice. I found that I have stories to share. I found that I what I write matters to my readers. I started to find my tribe.

Join me as I share stories from my past as well as current stories about the challenges of trying to live a spiritually aware life in a modern world.

The Official Bio-
Laura Foster started the popular blog TheIfOnlyGirl.com in 2013. She writes about topics as diverse as spirituality, health, exercise, and fashion. She has a strong design background, with over twenty years experience in both fashion and graphic design. She’s founded several companies, including the nonprofit Friends Helping Others, which supports water and school projects in northern Ethiopia. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Mathematics, a Master’s Degree in Spiritual Psychology and is a certified Kundalini Yoga instructor. She is also an accomplished speaker and photographer. She currently lives and works in sunny South Pasadena, CA.

  • Joan Of Art

    I look forward to your every post. Hang and contemplate and even debate entries. The conversation has only started…thank you Laura.